Osho on falling in love

Selfishness, contrary to popular belief, is a beautiful and useful trait. Being selfish does not mean being egotistical or inconsiderate of others, but simply being true to yourself and your desires. When you focus on yourself and your needs, you actually take responsibility for your life and your happiness. You understand that you are the most significant factor in shaping your reality, and that you have the power to produce the desired change. In this sense, selfishness is the basis of self-love and self-fulfillment.

Self-love as a condition for loving others

One of the common mistakes people make is trying to love others before they love themselves. They expect to find love, appreciation and approval from the environment, as if the environment can give them something they lack inside. But the truth is, that in order to love others in a real and healthy way, we must first learn to love ourselves. Only those who are full of self-love can afford to give love to others without expecting to receive anything in return. His love does not depend on external factors, and it derives from an inexhaustible internal source.

The beggars of love

When people try to find love and a sense of worth through others, without having developed self-love, they are like two beggars collecting alms from each other. Each of them believes that the other has means and will be able to provide him with what he lacks, but in reality both are poor and miserable. When the truth is revealed and the illusion is shattered, feelings of anger, frustration and betrayal arise. Each accuses the other of having “tricked” him into pretending to be something he is not. But the truth is that they were both playing the same game, and that they both mistakenly believed that someone else could give them a love that they didn’t have.

The beginning lies with you

The only way to break free from this circle of expectations and disappointments is to start with ourselves. We must stop looking for love, appreciation and security outside, and start cultivating them within. It is a process that requires courage, honesty and commitment. We must be willing to look within, explore our fears and doubts, and challenge the limiting beliefs that prevent us from loving ourselves. It means giving up the need to impress others or please them, and start living according to our values and aspirations. It means taking responsibility for our choices and their outcomes, without blaming others or the circumstances.

The discovery of the inner treasures

When you begin a journey of self-discovery and self-love, you discover that within us lie infinite treasures. We discover that we have beauty, wisdom, creativity, compassion and love in us that we did not know before. The more we deepen our connection with ourselves and cultivate our positive qualities, the fuller and more complete we become. We realize that we don’t need external approval or outside completion, because everything we need is already within us. And when we reach this state of fullness and perfection, a deep desire arises in us to share this wealth with others.

Give out of abundance, not out of lack

When we discover our inner treasures, we want to share them with the world. But it is important to understand that these treasures are different from material treasures. In the physical world, it seems to us that what we have is limited, and that if we give of ourselves to others, we will have less left. It is a perception of scarcity, which leads us to stinginess, competitiveness and suspicion. But in the spiritual world, the rules are different. The more we give of our love, compassion and wisdom, the more they grow and become more abundant. This is true for all our positive qualities – the more we share them with others, the more they multiply and become stronger within us.

The importance of sharing and giving

Therefore, if we wish to preserve and increase our inner treasures, we must give them expression and share them with others. We must be generous and open-hearted, and radiate the love and light within us to our surroundings. This does not mean that we should ignore our own needs and desires, or sacrifice ourselves for the sake of others. This means finding the right balance between caring for ourselves and caring for others, and acting out of free choice and joy. When we share from a place of abundance and love, we benefit not only others, but also ourselves. We feel significant, connected and more fulfilled, creating a reality of brotherhood and mutual sharing.

Become a well of love and giving

A person who cultivates his inner treasures and shares them with the world is like a well of living water. Just as the well receives water from deep and hidden springs, so it draws its love and wisdom from higher spiritual sources. And just as the well provides clear and satisfying water to everyone who is thirsty and asks, so it showers its light and blessing on everyone who turns to it. He does not worry that his water will run out, because he knows that it is constantly renewed. He is happy to see others drink and be filled with his abundance, and realizes that this is his right and true mission in the world.

In conclusion, positive selfishness is the key to a life full of love, meaning and joy. Only when we accept ourselves unconditionally, we can also accept others in the same way. Only when we recognize our own self-worth, can we appreciate and cherish the worth of others. And only when we live according to our inner truth, we can discover a new world of freedom and creation. Let’s start this journey today, and become the most improved versions of ourselves – for ourselves, for those around us, and for all of humanity.